6 Things I've Learnt (So Far) About Wedding Planning
Wedding planning is both a happy-yet-stressful job, and for those of you who are in the same boat as we are, you will completely understand the conflict of feelings surrounding it. The thing is, I know that many of you will never have done this before, and neither have I, but where my wedding day is less than 6 weeks away now, there will be some of you who have just started on your venture. With that in mind, I thought it would be useful for you to see the lessons I have learnt so far about the process so you will know what to expect! Let's get into it, shall we?
1. You need to assign important tasks & details to your wedding coordinator
There will be far too much for you to think about on the day, so this is where your wedding coordinator should come in. They should be aware of all of the ins and outs of the day, but you may need to give them some prompts along the way. We weren't even aware we had a wedding coordinator until five months before the wedding, when we should have been made aware more than a month before that.
These things happen, but you do need to be aware of timelines and when you should expect certain things to happen. Something I've learnt is that those who should be in the know aren't always, so use your initiative.
However, what you need to do is give certain tasks to your wedding coordinator. Ask them about what they should do for you in their role and not what they can do for you, if that makes sense? They're providing a service to you that you are paying for, so take advantage of that.
2. It's important to get to know your wedding vendors
Wedding vendors and suppliers make up a huge part of your day. If you're just starting with the wedding planning then you might not know who those vendors are yet, or you're not at the stage where you can meet with them, but if you're further down the line, like us, then make the effort to talk to suppliers and vendors in person. Some suppliers might request that you go for a coffee so that they can get to know you as a couple. Take them up on that offer. You might well get a more personalised service than you would have done otherwise.
3. There are lots of things that are out of your control
You can be as organised as you like, but there will always be something that is thrown up which is completely out of your control. Regardless of the amount of effort you put in to provision for every last thing, like with everything, nothing is 100% in your control.
For example, just 8 weeks before our wedding, one of our suppliers contacted us to say that an item we had chosen had been discontinued and we didn't much like the alternatives that were offered to us, but we had to almost go back to square one with the whole thing just 2 months before the big day, adding to the stress even more so.
Expect the unexpected, but try and be as organised as possible just to be on the safe side. It also means that, the more you have sorted towards the end, the less you'll have to deal with on top of anything that comes up unexpectedly.
4. You will need to double (& even triple) check absolutely everything
When I say you need to check everything, I really do mean everything. Even down to the quotes you're given by suppliers and vendors. Go through everything with a fine-toothed comb, leaving no stone unturned. Check that you're being charged the right amount for things and then also check that you have included everything you want for your big day, even down to tablecloths and place names. Check absolutely everything that involves your wedding day. Don't just check once, but check twice and even three times, just to be on the safe side. That is something we have done and it's actually paid off so far.
5. You should definitely have a hair & makeup trial
This is for those who want one, and both men and women can go for hair and even makeup trials if you wish. It's something I recommend doing because you want everything to be right on the day. Where it can be costly to have done, it's the price you pay for peace of mind that you'll look exactly how you want to when your wedding day arrives. You want to be relaxed and stress-free come the big day, so bit the bullet and pay for that hair and makeup trial.
6. Sometimes you need to focus on your own priorities rather than somebody else's
There comes a time when you have to put the needs of others below the needs of yourself. It can be difficult, but there comes a time in wedding planning where you have to think about what you want and not what everyone else wants.
It's not up to you to make sure everyone can get there, it's not up to you to make sure everyone has accommodation, it's not up to you to make sure everyone likes beef. If they don't like beef, then give them the veggie option.
There is always a solution to the issue, just go with what you want and don't keep bending over backwards to make sure everyone is catered for, because it does get tiresome and leaves you with little-to-no time for yourselves. Although this might sound harsh, you will thank me when it comes to planning your wedding.
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I hope you enjoyed this blog post and found it somewhat useful if you're currently planning your wedding? Let me know in the comments if you have any other hints and tips for upcoming wedding couples and I will see you again very soon with a brand new blog post!
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